Tuesday, February 23, 2010


I want to start out by apologizing for misleading you if I have. I want to emphasize to you how wonderful my husband really is and how amazing our relationship is. My point from my post yesterday is that that is a very true conversation that I had/have often. But you see, years ago God made this answer very clear to me about how to feel in circumstances like these.

Alright, let me start here ladies...

If you are a wife, then you have been created to fill a need, and in that capacity you are a "good thing", a helper suited to the needs of a man.

Now, some of you may already know where I'm going with this, but it only took one book for me to get the big picture.  When God spoke to me I immediately understood that it was my job as a wife to be obedient to my husband. It prepared me for the fact that there were going to be many times throughout our marriage that we were going to disagree or see things differently, but in the end it was going to be I who needed to give. And not so much was it to give in, but just to be obedient. God's Word tells us that we need to submit to our husbands. Ladies, our husband's authority is delegated by God, and we need to submit to our men "as unto the Lord". We need to understand that when we do this we are indeed recognizing God's authority and submitting to Him.

When all of this came together in my little "want to be stubborn head" I immediately realized that God knew my heart and my actions. It was my job to answer to my husband and He would take it from there.
This is when I began a point in my life where I started to implement everything that I had learned into our marriage. There were many days of my biting of my lip to agree with or obey my husband. But then I realized that I didn't have to always agree with how he felt about something, but it was my job to obey his wishes.
This was a turning of a page in our relationship. It was so amazing to see how God began to work in our home. There were fewer arguments and so much more fun and happiness. It was almost as if we began to gain even more respect for each other. I knew that from here on out it was my responsibility to live a life pleasing to my husband.

As I continue to work very hard at this day in and day out, it does not guarantee that every day is going to be a walk in the park. But what it does guarantee is that I am pleasing my husband. So, if all that he is asking me to do is to get myself ready a little earlier in the day and maybe a few other things, is that really all that bad? Is he really asking the impossible of me? I don't think so! If that is all that I have to do to start our days off great, than I would think that I have it pretty darn good.

So I am going to continue living my days in submission towards my husband. I plan to glorify God while doing so and hopefully my daughter will see a good example of a wife who honors her Lord by honoring her husband.

I have been Created To Be His Help Meet!

With Love My Friends-

1 comment:

shalunya said...

You know Jenny, there is no such thing as a perfect spouse or a perfect person. It's about loving our counterpart in spite of their less than lovable quirks. After 10 years of marriage I've learned that no one can tell me what is right and what is wrong for my marriage. The fact that you are willing to continue to work on a relationship even after you're comfortable with it speaks volumes about your character. Keep on lovin' girl!!!!